Have you ever sat in a meeting to discuss a conflict or issue and someone rattles off a brilliant solution and you think to yourself "why didn't I think of that"? That is because collaborative healthy teams can come up with solutions to problems better than one person can on his/her own. Conflict and arguing are healthy during the collaboration process, as long as it remains professional and doesn't get personal or too heated. Sharing issues with the team will cut issues in half. It's all about team-building and working together to solve problems.
If you or someone you work for is a control freak or is afraid to ask for help you can do the following:
- Don't make up bull$&#t if you don't know something - it makes you look insecure. Just say that you don't know and get back to whomever is asking.
- Don't try to do everything yourself - that's controlling and micromanaging.
- Create a collaborative team environment where everyone feels comfortable expressing their opinions.
- Rely on your team and trust them until proven otherwise.
- Don't be afraid to ask for help from your team if you don't have the answers - you hired smart people to make decisions and relying on them only makes you a better leader.
If you work for someone that is afraid to ask for help - reassure them that you are capable of doing the work and you are there to help make decisions for the group. In the end, you are there to make your boss shine and take on responsibility. If a controlling boss doesn't let you make decisions, maybe it's time to leave.
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